{"id":2469,"date":"2016-04-26T03:03:00","date_gmt":"2016-04-26T03:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dogeardiary.blogspot.com\/2016\/04\/the-curse-of-good-girl.html"},"modified":"2016-04-26T03:03:00","modified_gmt":"2016-04-26T03:03:00","slug":"the-curse-of-the-good-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dogeardiary.com\/2016\/04\/the-curse-of-the-good-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"The Curse of the Good Girl"},"content":{"rendered":"

Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence<\/span>
by Rachel Simmons<\/b><\/p>\n

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This book is about teaching girls to be true to themselves. The first half shows examples of learned behavior patterns that can be problematic because girls use them to diminish their feelings, avoid confrontation, deny culpability, sidestep real issues between friends and so on. All in the name of being \\”good\\”- nice, apologetic, demure and selfless. At first I thought it was ridiculous, the idea of good behavior becoming a negative thing, but the author makes the case that it\\’s about putting on a good appearance<\/i> at the cost of everything else that can be a problem. Which leaves girls unable to resolve issues, communicate effectively, speak up for themselves or even recognize when relationships need improvement. She sees serious trends of girls unable to accept and build upon criticism, girls who apply all-or-nothing rules to their friendships and then carry those on into professional settings later in life, which only hinders them. The author systematically examines the \\”good girl\\” ways of being that are problematic, and then describes how to go about learning different patterns of behavior that enable girls to be more forthright, confidence and sincere. Using examples from real situations that came up with girls who attend her workshops (often with their mothers) she shows how to work through it. There\\’s no perfect answer, but there are better ways of finding them. I saw myself a lot in this book. And my daughter. I hope I absorbed enough of it to attempt making some changes of my own for the better.<\/p>\n

I borrowed this book from a friend.<\/p>\n

Rating: 4\/5<\/b> \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0278 pages, 2009<\/p>\n

more opinions:
A Striped Armchair<\/a>
Betty and Boo Chronicles<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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